How A Mother Turns Pain Into Betterment of The World!
June 3, 2019
By Dr. Manijeh Motaghy – Founder of Perfectly Here and Mindful Business Institute. Member of International Mindfulness Teachers Association.
There are five principles, I see as necessary for any human being to cultivate, so that they may have a spiritually mature ego who can assist them to live fully and happily. Such mature ego can naturally empower others to live fully and happily as well.
How A Mother Turns Pain Into Betterment of The World is my way of sharing with you how painful and fierce the past two years has been for me. June 30th 2017 sets the date for the loss of my —– son, Kuroosh. I really can’t find the one right adjective to describe him, for he was a whole person with challenges and strengths, with beauties and demons, with hopes and desires, with goals and missions, with a heart filled with love and compassion. All I can say is that his loss hurts deeply. So, deep no other pain and suffering I’ve had comes close to it. As I write, tears of a broken heart run down my face and I know there’s nothing I can do to change the event that caused such broken heart.
As it turns out,
Pain is inevitable and reflecting that it is not personal helps me calm down. If I allow my mind to make it personal then the suffering becomes unbearable. I will be done for, unable to live. So, I take a breath and become aware of my own right and necessity to be happy. My responsibility is to see the condition of my mind and what it needs, to bring ease when my body needs it, cultivate peace and joy when my mind and heart is in agony. I remember my own advice, You are not obligated to suffer. There is no other way to go about it.
It is auspicious and fortunate
That throughout the history, in the face of such enormous pains a mother, a parent, a human being rises up, as so many have, to help relieve the pain of others. To help change laws and other conditions, to educate and heal. This maybe done in small scales of within one’s family or in bigger cases of taking it into the community. Similarly, in my case, Kuroosh’s death intensified my compassionate and helping heart. As time has passed I’ve noticed that by working through my own pain there is a focus and determination, a fierceness to my understandings, my insights and my teachings. The principles of the program I named after my son, Kuroosh, to help the families of addicts live life fully with less pain and more joy is now becoming more and more vivid to me. It is shaping and embodying it’s own life. He and his intention, which will never die, are at work. And I just show up for it. There are five principles, I see as necessary for any human being to cultivate, so that they may have a spiritually mature ego who can assist them to live fully and happily. Such mature ego can naturally empower others to live fully and happily as well. Here are the five principles I propose for anyone specially the families who deal with addiction:
The Five Kuroosh Compassionate Healing And Recovery Program Trainings:
- Peace and release – letting go towards one’s peace and happiness is a skill that can be cultivated
- Being and seeing the whole person not just the addict or the negative
- Having compassion towards oneself and others – a warm understanding of inevitability of failure, not taking things personal
- Giving up the obligation to suffer. Not being so attached and determined to be miserable. It is not necessary for happiness.
- Taking responsibility for one’s own happiness – being responsible is having the ability to respond. Learning how to respond with an aim towards happiness
This program has been continually helping others. Our upcoming event is on Sunday, June 23 fro 4-8pm. A Day of Peace and Release
I hope to see many of you present to enjoy all the speakers, compassionate practices, live music and food. A day to uplift your heart and mind.
With Love and Gratitude
The above teachings are for everyone. We hope that you would find it helpful to learn, practice and embody these principals that lead to happiness and well-being. We also hope that you would join us in this effort in anyway you can. By your attendance, your financial support, your volunteer work and by spreading the word.